So this is how I know the child support system is screwy...my stepdaughter's(emily) biological father called this week and asked for his child support obligation to be forgiven. There is grace and there is forgiveness...but a financial obligation to your child is really not something that can be erased. This is not personal...I love Emilys dad with all of my heart. This is not about us though. Its about taking responsibility for your decisions and taking care of your kids. He said that he was advised by his attorney(public defender that we are paying for with our tax dollars) to ask for the debt to be forgiven. Wow...I didnt know that was an option. Maybe I should ask the boys mom if it would be ok if I dont pay child support anymore. Somehow I dont think she would go for it, and it just sounds absurd. I am a little confused about where the justice is in this whole ordeal. I work=I pay VS. I don't care to get a job=i get an attorney that is paid for and my debt forgiven. You weigh it out.